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Reflection of Paulo Coelhos: Guilt and forgiveness - Part II
Guilt and forgiveness - Part II
Published
by
Paulo Coelho
on March 6, 2009
Here is a beautiful story that illustrates precisely what I mean:
When he was small, Cosroes had a teacher who helped him to become an outstanding student in all his subjects. One afternoon, the teacher punished him severely, apparently for no reason.
Years later, Cosroes acceded to the throne. One of his first actions was to summon his former schoolmaster and demand an explanation for the injustice he had committed.
‘Why did you punish me when I had done nothing wrong?’ he asked.
‘When I saw how intelligent you were, I knew at once that you would inherit the throne from your father,’ replied his teacher. ‘And so I decided to show you how injustice can mark a man for life. Now that you know that,’ the teacher went on, ‘I hope you will never punish another person without good reason.’
This reminds me too of a conversation I had over supper once in Kyoto.
The Korean teacher Tae-Chang Kim was talking about the differences between Western thought and Eastern thought.
‘Both our civilisations have a golden rule. In the West, you say: ‘Do as you would be done by.’ This means that a loving person establishes a model of happiness which he tries to impose on all those he meets.
The golden rule in the East appears to be almost the same: ‘Never do to others what you would not want done to you.’ This is based on an understanding of all the things that make us unhappy, including having to obey a model of happiness imposed on us by others - and that makes all the difference.
In order to improve the world, we do not impose our own way of showing our love, we try instead to avoid making others suffer.’
So show respect and care when dealing with your fellow man. Jesus said: ‘You shall know them by their fruits.’ And old Arab proverb says: ‘God judges the tree by its fruits, not by its roots.’ And according to a popular proverb: ‘The beater forgets the beating, the beaten never do.’
My reflection:
It´s so beautiful Paulo :-)
It´s almost what I wrote on part 1 of forgivness *LOL*.
I´m so happy that there is people like you on this Earth :-)
I have a dream and a vision (and many more with me I suppose), that we can come togehter more and more people to share this wisdom and love.
And I think I´m getting there step by step with help from my friends.
But we need a lot of friends sharing in diffrent ways, so we should all start with doing what we can, with the resources we have.
Starting with ourselfs first and then flow over and share to other.
Paulo, you give many people strenght to stand up for themselfs, and one them is me ;-)
The circle of support, you support me and I support others in return.
The good waves are spreading !!!!
Love Jessica
Published
by
Paulo Coelho
on March 6, 2009
Here is a beautiful story that illustrates precisely what I mean:
When he was small, Cosroes had a teacher who helped him to become an outstanding student in all his subjects. One afternoon, the teacher punished him severely, apparently for no reason.
Years later, Cosroes acceded to the throne. One of his first actions was to summon his former schoolmaster and demand an explanation for the injustice he had committed.
‘Why did you punish me when I had done nothing wrong?’ he asked.
‘When I saw how intelligent you were, I knew at once that you would inherit the throne from your father,’ replied his teacher. ‘And so I decided to show you how injustice can mark a man for life. Now that you know that,’ the teacher went on, ‘I hope you will never punish another person without good reason.’
This reminds me too of a conversation I had over supper once in Kyoto.
The Korean teacher Tae-Chang Kim was talking about the differences between Western thought and Eastern thought.
‘Both our civilisations have a golden rule. In the West, you say: ‘Do as you would be done by.’ This means that a loving person establishes a model of happiness which he tries to impose on all those he meets.
The golden rule in the East appears to be almost the same: ‘Never do to others what you would not want done to you.’ This is based on an understanding of all the things that make us unhappy, including having to obey a model of happiness imposed on us by others - and that makes all the difference.
In order to improve the world, we do not impose our own way of showing our love, we try instead to avoid making others suffer.’
So show respect and care when dealing with your fellow man. Jesus said: ‘You shall know them by their fruits.’ And old Arab proverb says: ‘God judges the tree by its fruits, not by its roots.’ And according to a popular proverb: ‘The beater forgets the beating, the beaten never do.’
My reflection:
It´s so beautiful Paulo :-)
It´s almost what I wrote on part 1 of forgivness *LOL*.
I´m so happy that there is people like you on this Earth :-)
I have a dream and a vision (and many more with me I suppose), that we can come togehter more and more people to share this wisdom and love.
And I think I´m getting there step by step with help from my friends.
But we need a lot of friends sharing in diffrent ways, so we should all start with doing what we can, with the resources we have.
Starting with ourselfs first and then flow over and share to other.
Paulo, you give many people strenght to stand up for themselfs, and one them is me ;-)
The circle of support, you support me and I support others in return.
The good waves are spreading !!!!
Love Jessica
Some more thoughts about forgiveness
One more thought ….
I think we all want to be loved for who we are.
But if I speak for myself, I have been scared to show myself, because I believed that noone would love me for who I am, so I hided behind a wall :-(
But I´m through with hiding!!!
Now I have to stand up for myself and show the real me.
And thoose who loves me, loves me, simple as that.
And the most important thing is I also have to love myself and respect myself.
How can other people else know who I am, if I´m not sure who I am myself?
Everything starts within yourself.
And thats where I found my strenght in God, the Divine,the source, the light within or whatever you call it.
I go to the source and meditate !!!
I believe that we all come from the same source, so we should see ourself in other people.
If I hurt another person, I also hurt myself.
But we all do mistakes from unconscioussnes and then when we realize what we are doing and need to correct them, we can hurt other people because your didn´t follow YOUR path.
You suddenly realize that you where walking on someone elses path.
And we should forgive both ourself and the other person for this, saying to them that I made a mistake.
Love Jessica
I think we all want to be loved for who we are.
But if I speak for myself, I have been scared to show myself, because I believed that noone would love me for who I am, so I hided behind a wall :-(
But I´m through with hiding!!!
Now I have to stand up for myself and show the real me.
And thoose who loves me, loves me, simple as that.
And the most important thing is I also have to love myself and respect myself.
How can other people else know who I am, if I´m not sure who I am myself?
Everything starts within yourself.
And thats where I found my strenght in God, the Divine,the source, the light within or whatever you call it.
I go to the source and meditate !!!
I believe that we all come from the same source, so we should see ourself in other people.
If I hurt another person, I also hurt myself.
But we all do mistakes from unconscioussnes and then when we realize what we are doing and need to correct them, we can hurt other people because your didn´t follow YOUR path.
You suddenly realize that you where walking on someone elses path.
And we should forgive both ourself and the other person for this, saying to them that I made a mistake.
Love Jessica
Reflection of Paulo Coelhos: Guilt and forgiveness - Part 1
During his pilgrimage to Mecca, a holy man was suddenly aware of God’s presence beside him. He fell into a trance, knelt down, hid his face and prayed:
‘Lord, I ask only one thing in my life, that You give me the grace never to offend You.’
‘I cannot give you that grace,’ replied the Almighty.
Surprised, the man asked why.
‘If you never offend me, I will have no reason to forgive you,’ he heard the Lord say. ‘And if I have no need to forgive you, you will soon forget the importance of being merciful to others. Therefore, continue on your way with Love, and allow me to forgive you now and then, so that you do not forget this virtue either.’
The story clearly illustrates our own problems with guilt and forgiveness. When we were children, we would often overhear our mother saying: ‘My child only behaved foolishly because he got into bad company. He’s a very good boy really.’
And so we never took responsibility for our actions, never asked for forgiveness and ended up forgetting that we must also be generous with those who offend us. The act of forgiveness has nothing to do with feelings of guilt or cowardice: we all make mistakes and it is only by occasionally stumbling that we can improve and progress. On the other hand, if we are too tolerant of our own behaviour - especially when this hurts other people - we become isolated and incapable of correcting our path.
How can we drive out guilt, but at the same time be capable of asking forgiveness for any mistakes we make?
There are no easy formulas, but there is good sense: we should judge the results of our actions and not the intentions behind them. Deep down, everyone is good, but that is irrelevant and will not heal any wounds we might inflict.
My reflection:
I think I have a clue ;-)
“How can we drive out guilt, but at the same time be capable of asking forgiveness for any mistakes we make?”
By forgiving ourself for our own mistake as we forgive others for theirs, but start with yourself.
It´s not easy is a process have patience and be kind to yourself.
Stand up for your beliefs and follow your heart.
Don´t let other peoples projections hurt you instead see thrue them, see the bigger picture.
Love and light
Jessica
‘Lord, I ask only one thing in my life, that You give me the grace never to offend You.’
‘I cannot give you that grace,’ replied the Almighty.
Surprised, the man asked why.
‘If you never offend me, I will have no reason to forgive you,’ he heard the Lord say. ‘And if I have no need to forgive you, you will soon forget the importance of being merciful to others. Therefore, continue on your way with Love, and allow me to forgive you now and then, so that you do not forget this virtue either.’
The story clearly illustrates our own problems with guilt and forgiveness. When we were children, we would often overhear our mother saying: ‘My child only behaved foolishly because he got into bad company. He’s a very good boy really.’
And so we never took responsibility for our actions, never asked for forgiveness and ended up forgetting that we must also be generous with those who offend us. The act of forgiveness has nothing to do with feelings of guilt or cowardice: we all make mistakes and it is only by occasionally stumbling that we can improve and progress. On the other hand, if we are too tolerant of our own behaviour - especially when this hurts other people - we become isolated and incapable of correcting our path.
How can we drive out guilt, but at the same time be capable of asking forgiveness for any mistakes we make?
There are no easy formulas, but there is good sense: we should judge the results of our actions and not the intentions behind them. Deep down, everyone is good, but that is irrelevant and will not heal any wounds we might inflict.
My reflection:
I think I have a clue ;-)
“How can we drive out guilt, but at the same time be capable of asking forgiveness for any mistakes we make?”
By forgiving ourself for our own mistake as we forgive others for theirs, but start with yourself.
It´s not easy is a process have patience and be kind to yourself.
Stand up for your beliefs and follow your heart.
Don´t let other peoples projections hurt you instead see thrue them, see the bigger picture.
Love and light
Jessica
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Lightbolb moment :-)
Today I had an lightbolb moment :-D
One idea crossed my mind, what I wanted to achieve in this lifetime.
I want to help other humans that have gone thrue traumas and lost their self confidience and will to live, and their feeling of being a victim.I want to do what I can to help others, as I have recived help from many people when I have gone thrue traumas in my life.
I have often felt like a victim in my life, victim of rape, victim of being used, victim of being weak.I never talked to anyone about it because I was ashamed over it, thinking it was my fault theese things happened to me.
I have been helped in many ways and the most efficent for me has been healing, talking to a mentor, write diary and now I have been startig talking with friends about what I have been through.
And they are shocked, I who always has been so “strong” and “happy” in their eyes.
I have realized I have been very good hiding behind a wall, letting no one too close because of fear of being alone and abandon.
And when I have been hiding, I became alone in one sense, because I felt like no one understood me.
How could they if I always hided behind a “happy” face?
So maybe that´s why I the last two years have being going on a rollercoaster in my emotions, letting all the emotions out again.
And everyone around me think I´m changed and they are confused.
But they are right I have changed, and I will never going back to being a victim again.
I´m going to stand up for myself and my feelings, not let myself down again.
Now I´m showing people who I really am, with all my sides, happy,sad, strong, weak, brave and afraid.
I can also be sad and weak and I also need support some times.
It takes courage to show the real you, and don´t hide behind a wall of strenght and happiness ;-)
I´m just a human, as all the rest nothing more, nothing less ;-)
Love Jessica
Forgot one thing ….
It´s also a strenght to be able to ask for help.
I wished I had done it many years before, but better late then never.
No use crying over spilled milk, just take a new leap of faith and take one step infront of the other.
Now it´s my turn to help others, but I should also not forget to ask for help again if I need it.
(I have a healer and a mentor I go to even now and then, she can often help see things from a bigger picture when I get caught up in small details)
Give and recieve with joy :-)
One idea crossed my mind, what I wanted to achieve in this lifetime.
I want to help other humans that have gone thrue traumas and lost their self confidience and will to live, and their feeling of being a victim.I want to do what I can to help others, as I have recived help from many people when I have gone thrue traumas in my life.
I have often felt like a victim in my life, victim of rape, victim of being used, victim of being weak.I never talked to anyone about it because I was ashamed over it, thinking it was my fault theese things happened to me.
I have been helped in many ways and the most efficent for me has been healing, talking to a mentor, write diary and now I have been startig talking with friends about what I have been through.
And they are shocked, I who always has been so “strong” and “happy” in their eyes.
I have realized I have been very good hiding behind a wall, letting no one too close because of fear of being alone and abandon.
And when I have been hiding, I became alone in one sense, because I felt like no one understood me.
How could they if I always hided behind a “happy” face?
So maybe that´s why I the last two years have being going on a rollercoaster in my emotions, letting all the emotions out again.
And everyone around me think I´m changed and they are confused.
But they are right I have changed, and I will never going back to being a victim again.
I´m going to stand up for myself and my feelings, not let myself down again.
Now I´m showing people who I really am, with all my sides, happy,sad, strong, weak, brave and afraid.
I can also be sad and weak and I also need support some times.
It takes courage to show the real you, and don´t hide behind a wall of strenght and happiness ;-)
I´m just a human, as all the rest nothing more, nothing less ;-)
Love Jessica
Forgot one thing ….
It´s also a strenght to be able to ask for help.
I wished I had done it many years before, but better late then never.
No use crying over spilled milk, just take a new leap of faith and take one step infront of the other.
Now it´s my turn to help others, but I should also not forget to ask for help again if I need it.
(I have a healer and a mentor I go to even now and then, she can often help see things from a bigger picture when I get caught up in small details)
Give and recieve with joy :-)
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